Someone’s gotta do it, and it may as well be me. I’m going to talk about the Mommy Wars. That’s right. I said it! Let’s be honest about the Mommy Wars that are brewing in our sensory community — organic, dye-free, gluten-free, vegan. Call it what you want but it’s creating a scandal — and a divisive line if we let it.
The other day I was waiting to pick up my 5yo from his group occupational therapy session when one of the moms started chatting up the group. She mentioned she’s traveling two hours a week to attend a group that focuses on how the things we eat may affect the body… specifically, how what we’re giving our kids is causing them to have Sensory Processing Disorder. Or at least triggering their SPD.
Let’s just pause a moment and think about both sides of the coin…
What people who DON’T subscribe to the food issue think: Please stop telling us how much better eating gluten-free is for our bodies. Stop preaching to us how you have found the answer when you’re still having sensory problems with your kid. Even when I change her diet, nothing changes. I’m working my butt off to manage day-to-day living and throwing one more “should” into my life is about to make things spiral out of control. Do you think you know better than me? Do you think you’re better than me?
What people who DO subscribe to the food issue think: I need an answer to this sensory challenge for my kid, and I think I’ve found it. I’m personally noticing a difference when I choose dye-free foods for my kiddos. Why wouldn’t you do everything possible for your kids? Don’t give me those side-way glances or awkward silent responses that says you think I’m crazy. What. Do you think you know better than me? Do you think you’re better than me?
Now I know that I am traveling on a dangerous road here. I’ve probably already stepped on a number of toes just bringing it up. And I’m not here to debate which side is wrong and which side is right. What I am noticing is the propensity for people to preach what they believe, one way or the other, and to not respect each other’s feelings. What does matter is that at the end of the day, we’re all focused on helping our kids manage their sensory issues. I would like to see ourselves stop passing judgements on each other and start focusing on what matters… the kids. And if a parent doesn’t want to hear what you think, kindly acknowledge their right to have their own perspective and leave it at that. Only as a community can we move forward. Otherwise, we’ll find ourselves on opposite ends of the solution.
Bet you wish you could know where I stand, huh? Not gonna tell! At least not today. I’m too busy respecting my fellow parents.