“Mama, put down your phone.” A small voice peeks over the couch, directing its plea in my direction.
I sigh, put down the phone and cuddle up on the couch, to watch Ninjago once again. Perhaps my brain will actually turn into goo and leave my body if I have to watch this particular episode one more time.
The media, experts and even my kids tell me I spend way too much time on my iPhone. And I get it. From their perspective, I’m tuning out the world and not “living in the present.” I can hear them echo in my ears, “Bad mom. Bad mom.” But am I really?
People are so quick to pass judgement on the mom at the playground who chats on her phone or checks up on Facebook. However, this may be the only 30 minutes she actually gets to herself in a day to connect with others. The other hours are dedicated to taking care of her children.
Strangers sometimes give me questioning glances at the grocery store when they see me constantly checking my phone. I’m actually looking at my grocery list and marking off the items.
My children think I’m not giving them my undivided attention because I check email on my iPhone. The truth is, work/life balance is a farce. In today’s society, work/life integration is more realistic. I get as much as I can done when they’re at school. Granted, if I checked my phone every five minutes, they may have a case. But because I sneak in 10 minutes of email while they’re watching cartoons, they get the lion’s share of my attention throughout the afternoon and evening.
Smart phones have changed how we communicate, work and connect. It has turned into a tool that has become an integral part of my life. Does this mean I could survive without it? Yes. Paper grocery lists and hard copies of newspapers still exist. But because I have a smart phone, my family receives more attention from me. I no longer have to compartmentalize my time. Instead of disappearing behind a computer for an hour, I can check on my blog community before dinner and bed.
Some day, my children will understand my smart phone allowed me to be with them. They will understand my phone acts as a newspaper, camera, email inbox, to-do list, calendar (for all four family members), work station, website and telephone. And let’s not forget all of those cool book apps I’ve downloaded for them. Besides, I honestly don’t need to watch Ninjago one more time. I’ve already memorized the episode playing.
For fun, I thought you’d like to know how people break their iPhones.
I don’t see “children” listed.